12 Women Share The Brutally Honest Reasons They're Still Single

Time to get real with ourselves.

Regardless if we want to admit it or not, us single ladies probably have a good idea of why we’re still rocking (and yes, sometimes loathing) our single status. Take it from one of these eleven gals who share the super-honest, raw reasons they haven’t found love — yet!.

1. "Online dating sucks."

 

“I live in a busy city and it’s so easy to get on Tinder or Hinge or whatever - but I really hate it. I get bored really easily, have a hard time being interested in conversation, and less of an interest in actually meeting some stranger when I could be meeting my friends instead.” -Valerie, 23, Chicago

2. "I refuse to settle."

“I won’t allow myself to settle for someone who makes fun of me for my beliefs. It’s hard to find someone who has the same religious ideals that I do and we can connect on that.” -Cara, 24, North Carolina

3. "I'm not in the mood to share my life with someone right now."

“I think that really, I’m totally happy being single and just not in the mood to share my life with someone right now. And yet, I’m dating because I don’t want to wake up in five years and be mad at myself for not looking for a partner.” -Eve, 29, Los Angeles

4. "I don't put in any effort."

“If I’m being real here, I don’t put in any effort. Like, any at all.” -Carrie, 28, South Carolina

5. "I'm not who I need to be to start a healthy relationship."

“I believe that I’m not fully who I need to be in order to start and maintain the healthiest relationship. I’m working on me first and then opening myself up to the possibility of love.” -Alex, 26, Virginia

6. "I'm super-picky."

“There’s a few reasons - I’m picky and I’ve yet to be impressed with a man I’ve dated! I’m also still working on myself and on some past feelings and anger that I’m harboring. But most of all, it’s more like the men that I’m interested in are never interested in me, or vice-versa. I guess that’s why they call it a match!” -Leigh, 28, Seattle

7. "I'm stuck in my routine."

“I am kind of stuck in my routine and I don’t go out of my way to meet people. Plus - Los Angeles’ dating scene sucks, too. It’s all clubs and clothes, and that’s totally not for me.” -Karla, 27, Los Angeles

8. "I know exactly what I want ... which is hard to find."

“I have had awesome previous relationships that ended pretty amicably, so I know exactly what I want and I don’t settle for less. Especially not that I’m at the point in my life that I’m not going to commit to a relationship unless I see that partner as a potential husband.” -Maggie, 26, Texas

9. "I hate everyone."

“I like to blame my job ... but mostly I’m cranky, and I kind of hate everyone.” -Nicole, 29, Washington, D.C.

10. "I'm emotionally unavailable."

“I used to blame it on emotional wounds from relationships that ended badly, but now, I know that who I choose as a partner is a reflection on myself. I have a habit of choosing emotionally unavailable men because I am emotionally unavailable. I have to figure out why and break those barriers before I can truly be happy in a relationship.” -Robin, 27, Maine

11. "My career choice is intimidating."

“My career choice [in law enforcement] is either intimidating or too esoteric. They either feel inferior or do not connect because law enforcement is a culture, not just a job. I get along best with other law enforcement individuals which drastically cuts my options/connections. Also, I’ve been told that I exude an independent energy and give the impression that I am complicated or hard to satisfy.” -Michelle, 27, Tennessee

12. "I'm flaky."

“I flake on dates way too often! I get nervous to put myself out there, so I just cancel. Netflix and PJ’s, anyone?” -Allison, 25, Portland

12 Women Share The Brutally Honest Reasons They're Still Single

Time to get real with ourselves.

Regardless if we want to admit it or not, us single ladies probably have a good idea of why we’re still rocking (and yes, sometimes loathing) our single status. Take it from one of these eleven gals who share the super-honest, raw reasons they haven’t found love — yet!.

1. "Online dating sucks."

 

“I live in a busy city and it’s so easy to get on Tinder or Hinge or whatever - but I really hate it. I get bored really easily, have a hard time being interested in conversation, and less of an interest in actually meeting some stranger when I could be meeting my friends instead.” -Valerie, 23, Chicago

2. "I refuse to settle."

“I won’t allow myself to settle for someone who makes fun of me for my beliefs. It’s hard to find someone who has the same religious ideals that I do and we can connect on that.” -Cara, 24, North Carolina

3. "I'm not in the mood to share my life with someone right now."

“I think that really, I’m totally happy being single and just not in the mood to share my life with someone right now. And yet, I’m dating because I don’t want to wake up in five years and be mad at myself for not looking for a partner.” -Eve, 29, Los Angeles

4. "I don't put in any effort."

“If I’m being real here, I don’t put in any effort. Like, any at all.” -Carrie, 28, South Carolina

5. "I'm not who I need to be to start a healthy relationship."

“I believe that I’m not fully who I need to be in order to start and maintain the healthiest relationship. I’m working on me first and then opening myself up to the possibility of love.” -Alex, 26, Virginia

6. "I'm super-picky."

“There’s a few reasons - I’m picky and I’ve yet to be impressed with a man I’ve dated! I’m also still working on myself and on some past feelings and anger that I’m harboring. But most of all, it’s more like the men that I’m interested in are never interested in me, or vice-versa. I guess that’s why they call it a match!” -Leigh, 28, Seattle

7. "I'm stuck in my routine."

“I am kind of stuck in my routine and I don’t go out of my way to meet people. Plus - Los Angeles’ dating scene sucks, too. It’s all clubs and clothes, and that’s totally not for me.” -Karla, 27, Los Angeles

8. "I know exactly what I want ... which is hard to find."

“I have had awesome previous relationships that ended pretty amicably, so I know exactly what I want and I don’t settle for less. Especially not that I’m at the point in my life that I’m not going to commit to a relationship unless I see that partner as a potential husband.” -Maggie, 26, Texas

9. "I hate everyone."

“I like to blame my job ... but mostly I’m cranky, and I kind of hate everyone.” -Nicole, 29, Washington, D.C.

10. "I'm emotionally unavailable."

“I used to blame it on emotional wounds from relationships that ended badly, but now, I know that who I choose as a partner is a reflection on myself. I have a habit of choosing emotionally unavailable men because I am emotionally unavailable. I have to figure out why and break those barriers before I can truly be happy in a relationship.” -Robin, 27, Maine

11. "My career choice is intimidating."

“My career choice [in law enforcement] is either intimidating or too esoteric. They either feel inferior or do not connect because law enforcement is a culture, not just a job. I get along best with other law enforcement individuals which drastically cuts my options/connections. Also, I’ve been told that I exude an independent energy and give the impression that I am complicated or hard to satisfy.” -Michelle, 27, Tennessee

12. "I'm flaky."

“I flake on dates way too often! I get nervous to put myself out there, so I just cancel. Netflix and PJ’s, anyone?” -Allison, 25, Portland

Hey, Single Ladies! 7 Ways To OWN Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day ideas for singles. Hint: Chocolate binges and pity fests are not on the list!

Boyfriend bonfires (burning your ex-boyfriend's stuff a la the classic Friends episode) and copious dark chocolate consumption are the yearly Valentine's Day prescriptions for singleladies. But what about the non-bitter singletons among us? Shouldn't the celebration have something for us as well? In short, yes!

We've come up with seven ideas that treat V-Day not as a day to glorify romance, but as a day to celebrate love in general—love for yourself, your friends, your community and for the world. The ideas also still work for singles wishing for a life of couplehood. So go forth and revel—no matter what your relationship status.

 

1. Indulge yourself. Since Valentine's Day is all about love, spend the day loving yourself. It makes perfect sense. Play hooky from work (or just leave an hour early) and do whatever you want, be it pampering yourself with a lavish mani-pedi or staying home, ordering take out and marathoning every movie your celeb crush has ever made. Or, binge watch a full season of your favorite TV show on Netflix or Hulu. After all, you have no one to please but your own darn self.

2. Follow through. If indulging seems a little too ... indulgent, go the opposite direction and use the day to finish (or start) something you've been meaning to tackle. Secure that promotion you're after at work, sign up for Mint.com to get your finances in order, or rearrange your bookshelf by color (it really brightens a room!).

3. Fall in love with something NEW. Interested in taking up yoga? Want to learn how to dance ballet? Wish you could cook risotto? Challenge yourself to do something you haven't done before, or seldom get to do because of your schedule.

4. Send love someone else's way. Studies show that kindness spreads, so start an epidemic. Give Valentine's Day cards to those close to you, like your co-workers and friends, as well as those not so close to you, like the barista who serves you your coffee. Not the Hallmark type?Volunteer locally  and help those less fortunate than you. Seeing a face light up from your small gesture will fill you with love and make the world a better place. (We're serious—check out this link about how one act of kindness generates a domino effect of goodness.)

5. Participate in a "secret santa", Valentine's Day style. Who needs a valentine when you and your girlfriends have each other? Round up your girls, draw names from a hat and buy whomever you draw a little something (don't forget to set the spending limit beforehand). Then on V-Day, meet at a friend's apartment to exchange gifts. Afterwards get all dolled up and enjoy a night out on the town. Try a karaoke bar, because, let's face it, when is karaoke anything but a good time?

6. Throw a party. If gift-giving won't go over with your group, invite your friends over to celebrate being fabulous. 'Nuff said. 

7. Figure out what you want out of love. We know, we know, this whole post is about NOT being romantic. But since our mission is to help people live their best love lives, we would be remiss in not telling you that—even if you don't want to right now or don't believe it will ever happen—everyone, including you, can fall in love. And it usually happens when you least expect it. So take some time to write down a few love goals. Whether you want to remain single for 10 more years or want to start dating this month, that clarity makes it that much easier to get there.

Source:yourtango

If You Work One Of These 5 Jobs, Your Love Life Probably SUCKS

Keep your private and professional lives separate! Five jobs that can wreck your relationship.

 If you're a fan of soap operas, specifically Falcon Crest or The Bold and the Beautiful, you may be familiar with long-haired lover-boy Lorenzo Lamas. Well, things didn't going so great for the soap star; in fact, drama spilled out of the daytime and into his real life. Back in 2002, Lorenzo was on his fourth wife (anyone know what number he's on now?), Playboy model Shauna Sand. They divorced after the unlucky hunk learned wifey was having an affair with Lorenzo's 18-year-old son, A.J., according to Star. How's that for life imitating art?

 In the spirit of keeping your private and professional lives separate, here are five other jobs that can wreck your relationship.



1. Doctor. Everyone's heard of the M.D. who is so dedicated to their patients that they forget their spouse. And if you're married to a med student forget about spending any time with them — unless you're carrying their text books.

2. Any kind of shift worker. Unless your significant other also works at night, the graveyard shift can be a real disaster for relationships. If you're in this situation, watch True Blood. Sookie and Bill seem to make it work and he doesn't even have weekends off.

3. Psychologist. It helps to have listening skills but your spouse will always be able to say "Stop shrinking me!" and you'll never be able to retaliate.

4. Actor. Your significant other's got to be pretty confident if they're going to reign in jealousy at your kissing scenes. Hollywood types make it look easy but it can't be effortless to see your husband or wife getting busy with someone else.

5. Writer. Write what you know. How many fights have ensued after a writer was a little too candid in a personal essay or memoir?
Source:yourtango

5 Things You Should Do BEFORE Marriage To Prevent Divorce

Sorry romantics, but love alone is not enough.

By Thomas G. Fiffer

 Marriage has one of the highest failure rates of anything we try, and the cost and impact (especially on children) of disentangling can be devastating. The problem is not a legal system that makes divorce easy—it isn’t easy—or that we’re just not wired to be monogamous. We can learn to make conscious choices that override our wiring. And the problem is not that modern life has trumped what some call “traditional values.”



 The problem is that most people who get married have no idea—none—what they’re getting into, what they should look for—or look to exclude—in a potential mate, or how to approach the process of choosing a person they’d like to spend the rest of their life with. Sorry romantics, but love alone is not enough. Nor is a steadfast commitment to staying together when love is absent or one-sided—that’s just a recipe for a lifetime of misery.

 Ultimately, marriage is about relating, and the key to forging a successful, lasting bond is knowing, before you tie the knot, how you and your partner relate when you’re not in courtship mode, and that means getting a handle on how you handle challenges together. If you’ve gone through some rough spots while dating and come out stronger, that’s a good indication your marriage will survive. But no one likes to be tested, and how do you check someone’s challenge response without intentionally introducing trouble?

 Listed below are five things I believe every couple should do before getting married. While checking them off your prenuptial to-do list is no guarantee your marriage will make it, avoiding any of them sets the stage for failure.

1. Fight.


 If you never disagree with your partner, you’ll never learn how to handle disagreement. Stuffing it in and sucking it up only creates resentment, and resentment often leads to the passive-aggressive expression of anger. If you feel strongly about something, say so, and deal with the consequences.

 How you introduce disagreement and how your partner responds to it are probably the most important factors in whether your marriage will develop a healthy and constructive dynamic. If you’re afraid to disagree—because you’re conflict-avoidant or you fear abandonment—you’re not ready for marriage, and you need to work on yourself. How couples handle conflict is make or break, and you need to know whether the two of you are capable of resolving arguments or only leaving each other more frustrated.

 Don’t fight over petty things, but pick something you care about and stand your ground. A little unpleasantness early on will prevent a lot of unpleasantness later.

2. Travel together to an unfamiliar place.

 Marriage if it’s anything is an adventure, and you need to know how the two of you handle a journey to new and unfamiliar surroundings and the discoveries that follow. If you go somewhere one of you has already been, the dynamic becomes one of guide and tourist, which is not a partnership of equals.

 It also helps to plan—and ideally pay for—the trip together. A surprise vacation planned and paid for by your partner isn’t exactly a mutual endeavor. The more unplanned time you allow for on the trip, the better. You’ll learn how you plan a day together in the morning and what happens when those plans go awry. And if you get stuck in the airport or lost in a foreign city, you’re testing out your communal survival skills.

3. Have sex.

 Trust me, the last place you want to find out you’re incompatible on your wedding night is in the bedroom. If your faith precludes you from having premarital sex, so be it, and pray that you and your partner are a good physical fit.

 Beyond having sex and finding out if the magic happens, you’ll want to talk about sex—your likes, your dislikes, your taboos and your fantasies. Frequency of sex can be a bone of contention in marriages, so you’ll want to make sure your partner is into it as frequently—or as infrequently—as you are.

 In a healthy marriage, sex is both a generator of intimacy and an act in which intimacy gets expressed. If sex with your partner feels pleasurable but mechanical and doesn’t create a feeling of closeness, you may end up seeking that closeness elsewhere, which is problematic for a marriage. And if intimate emotional moments don’t progress to physical connection, frustration surely lies ahead.

4. Spend time with each other’s families.

 When you’re married, your partner’s family becomes your family, and respectful interaction will make your marriage much, much happier.

 The demands of families, their attitudes towards spouses, and the amount of time and interaction with them can all be major sources of conflict for married couples. You don’t have to like your in-laws or call them mom or dad, but you do have to respect the fact that they created and raised your spouse.

 Seeing how your partner interacts with his or her family and observing whether there’s a healthy dynamic can clue you in to what this person will be like in your marriage. If your partner doesn’t have a healthy relationship with his or her family, there may be valid reasons, and these are worth discussing. In addition, waiting until right before—or after—the wedding to present your future mate to your family forces everyone into an uncomfortable position.

 Finally, if there is conflict between your family and your partner, you’ll want to step in sensibly, set your boundaries as as couple, and nip it in the bud. This will set the tone for future interaction during the marriage.

5. Live together.

 Unless you plan to inhabit separate homes, your husband or wife will also be your roommate—potentially for life. Think back to the roommates of your past.

 Looking forward, compatibility in terms of household habits, behaviors, and tastes is a critical determining factor in successful marriages. There is a degree to which opposites attract, but slobs and neatniks, hoarders and minimalists, carpet-lovers and wood-floor-enthusiasts may find it difficult to cohabit without conflict. You also want to know what it’s like to wake up with your partner in the morning and go to sleep with him or her at night.

 If all your dating experience is on visits to each other’s spaces where one of you is entertaining the other, you’re missing the full flavor—both the bitter and the sweet—of the live-in married experience. So give living together a test-drive.

 Some marriages make it without the couples having done any of these things in advance. But if you want a better shot at the long shot of a marriage that lasts a lifetime, taking these actions before the big day will help you avoid becoming just another statistic and make it to the happily ever after.
Source:yourtango

Curvy Women Make Baby Geniuses (Says Science )

Another reason to thank all that extra fluff.

 In news that is going to make North West very happy someday, a study has found that curvy women actually make smarter babies, thanks to all that extra fluff. So, yes, Nori, despite your mum’s lack of upstairs knowledge her downstairs assets will come in handy when it’s time for you to prove to the world that you're not just the offspring of two selfish, dim-witted, egomaniacs. I’m happy for you, girl!

 The study by Pittsburgh University and lead researcher, Professor Will Lassek, found that "fat banks" in the area of a woman’s hips, thighs, and butt are pretty much the golden ticket when it comes to passing on smarts to babies during breast-feeding. As Lassek explained, “The fat in these areas is a depot for building a baby's brain. You need lots of fat to make a nervous system, and the fats in these areas are also enriched in DHA (docosahexaenoic acid), which is a particularly important component in the human brain."



 Lassek went on to explain that women have evolved in such a way so as to "accumulate these fats and hold on to them," until they give birth. It is then that these "brain-building, breast-milk lipids," leave the body via nursing and why women lose weight they do nurse on a regular basis. See? It's all making sense now, isn't it?

 Women's bodies, on average are made up of 30 percent fat, whereas men’s bodies are made up of only 10 percent. It is speculated that due to the fact that the human brain has increased in volume from 400ml to 1200ml over the past five million years, it would only make sense that women are fatter now than they were then. The weight gain is based on the evolutionary fact that it’s necessary to provide adequate brain capabilities to their offspring.

It is also suggested that the reason many men prefer a woman with curves is because they inherently know those women will reproduce babies that are "likely to be cleverer," according to Cambridge University’s reproductive biologist, David Bainbridge.

 Far too often women criticize themselves for their "imperfect" bodies, when in actuality, their bodies are just the shape they were meant to be. Women are supposed to be heavier around the hip area for certain evolutionary and biological reasons.

 Even if you're not planning on having kids (high five!), you're just sort of stuck with what Mother Nature gave you. There is a method to her madness, and it’s all about keeping the species alive. Even if you don’t take that route, it’s still the reason for most things. I know, I know… but it’s just the way the world works.
Source:yourtango

Couples Who Drink Together, Stay Together (Says Science)

Boozers love other boozers and they live happily ever after.

 Interesting news out of SUNY (State University Of New York) Buffalo: Evidently, the couple that boozes together cruises together.

 According to the University At Buffalo's website, Dr. Gregory Homish has been studying the behavior and satisfaction of couples for a decade. He came to the conclusion that couples with similar vices (alcohol and cigarettes in this case) and levels of engagement in said vices are likely to be more content with their relationship. And the correlation was greater for alcohol consumption than tobacco use (social lubricant!).



Essentially, heavy drinkers are more likely to be happy in their marriage than a drinker married to a teetotaler.

 The study followed more than 600 couples and has them fill out questionnaires before their wedding, at years one, two, four and seven. Not surprisingly, the honeymoon ends pretty quickly as overall satisfaction trends down through the years. But couples with different habits were more likely to feel dissatisfaction than those with similar ones.

 Though it's not expressly stated, you'd guess that in a Homer Simpson – Maude Flanders match (boozebag to teetotaler) that both parties are equally aggrieved. He says, "You used to be cool" and she says, "You're still drunk," to which he says, "I'll be sober in the morning and you'll still be a dork," at that point a door is slammed.

 Since alcohol is a depressant, especially when one wakes up drunk only to become progressively more hungover until they go to bed that evening, you'd guess that double-fisting couples would generally be less satisfied, but the study disagrees.

So maybe drinking takes the edge off of relationships. Or maybe these couples are too drunk to care, but either way: Cheers to them!
Source:yourtango

5 Reasons Your Best Friend Would Make A PERFECT Boyfriend

Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.

 There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number. Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little weird at first, but we think that the benefits of dating one might just overrule the awkwardness.

1. He's familiar with your bad side.
 Let's face it, during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don't have a dark side (everybody has one). You downplay your insecurities in hope that he won't see you as clingy, and you supress the fact that you occasionally get moody, jealous, or pointlessly angry. As a friend, he will not only be aware of your personal weaknesses, but he will know how to respond to them in a way that is constructive to the relationship and to your desire to improve yourself.



 On that same note, you'll be aware of his bad fashion sense, his corny jokes, and his strange fondness for period pieces before you start dating him. Heck, you might even love him all the more for the quirks you would find annoying in anybody else.

2. You're more or less aware of each other's relationship history.
 Chances are, you'll feel less self-conscious about the number of guys in your past if your boyfriend already knows about them before deciding to date you. Even better, you'll probably have an inkling of an idea about why his past relationships didn't work out. That way, both of you will have a sense of each other's relationships styles and issues and will be better prepared to deal with potential conflicts.

3. You're comfortable with each other.
 It takes a few weeks (if not longer) to feel completely at ease with somebody new. Should you eat ice cream from the container in front of him? Should you reveal that you're a twentysomething who still rereads Harry Potter on occasion? When dating someone who started out as a friend, you can skip the neurotic "I need to impress him" phase and go straight to wearing no makeup and nerding out together on Saturdays spent indoors.

4. It's exciting.
 Dating a friend might seem less glamorous than falling in love at first sight, but what's more suspenseful than decoding a friend's flirty mixed signals for signs of romantic intentions? If the relationship goes well, you'll be swept away at how a good friend turned out to be an even better boyfriend. Trust us, you'll swear off the random guys you meet during happy hour forever!

5. There's always something to talk about.
 We've all dated someone with whom we spent more time getting hot-and-heavy than in actual conversation. The moment of truth inevitably arrives during a long car ride, when you have no choice but to put on the radio because the two of you have no common interests. Aren't you ready for someone who still makes for good company even after the passion starts to plateau? Plus, just imagine the energy that you and a friend-turned-boyfriend will share after months (even years!) of pent-up romantic tension
SOURCE:YOURTANGO

9 Signs You're Spending WAY Too Much Time With Your Kids

We love our kids, we really do! We love playing with them, coloring with them, attending their recitals, cheering them on at sporting events, going on playdates with them, and everything else that comes with the territory.



 But parents need some grown-up time, too — and we're not only talking about time behind closed doors. We're talking about quality time with adults, whether it's a date night, a girls' night out, or even a solo dinner with you and your favorite book.

 How do you know if you've gone too long without one? See some of the telltale signs...

1. You're Subsisting on a Steady Diet of the Mac and Cheese Left on Your Kids' Plates. When the kids leave this much goodness behind, who needs to make their own dinner?

2. Your Evening Bag (or Any Bag Other Than Your Diaper Bag) Is Covered in Dust. It's a sure sign that you haven't been out without the kids in months if the bag is literally collecting dust.


3. You're Excited About the Idea of a Date Night So You Can Share the Pics on Facebook. If you need a date night just to show that you don't only spend time with your kids, you're not doing it enough!

4. The Only Live Music You've Heard in Months Is From Your Kids' TV Shows or Their Music Classes. Whether you were cool enough to score tickets to the Fresh Beat Band or Laurie Berkner when they came through town or you have a front-row spot in your toddler's weekly music class, these do not qualify as live music performances.

5. You've Fallen Asleep/Woken Up in Your Kids' Beds More Often Than Your Own. Whether they just asked you to lie down with them while they (and you) fell asleep or they called out for you in the middle of the night, you're spending more time with them than your partner if you're waking up with them.

6. Your Babysitter Is Calling and Asking You to Book Dates. If your weekend babysitter is calling you to schedule more dates, you probably aren't booking her often enough!

7. The Most Exciting Part of Your Week Is a Kid's Birthday Party. Sure, some kids have great magicians and you get to eat cake, but the most exciting part of your week shouldn't involve spilled apple juice and over-sugared kids.

8. The Most Action You're Getting Is From the Bouncy House. Who doesn't love playing in a bouncy house? But hopefully you're spending more time tumbling around with someone your own age.

9. When Everything Somehow Relates Back to an Animated Film. When you do make it out without the kids, try to the keep the conversation at least PG-13!
SOURCE:YOURTANGO

Best and Worst Foods for Sex

Libido-boosting foods


It can take more than just a few candles and a Marvin Gaye song to feel sexy. A healthy lifestyle—from the food you eat to the exercise you do—can make you look and feel better, and improve your sex life, too. At the same time, some foods can be mood- and libido-killers.

"The link between food and sex drive isn’t just wishful thinking" says Cynthia Sass, RD, author of S.A.S.S Yourself Slim ($10-14; amazon.com). "Studies show that certain foods or nutrients do play a role in boosting libido and supporting a healthy sex life."

Here are a variety of foods that can put some sizzle—or fizzle—in your sex life.
SOURCE:HEALTH

4 brilliant bra tips for full-busted women

Finding the perfect size bra is an essential part of dressing; a well-fitted bra can enhance your shape and give you all the support and confidence you need. Here are Dimitri Parolis' expert tips:

1. Back sizing

It is extremely important that you determine your correct back size.

This is done by measuring under the bust and around the torso to determine the size of the underband i.e. 32, 34, 36, 38 etc.

The underband must fit snugly from the breastbone right around the body, fastening in the centre of the back.

If the bra starts creeping up at the back, it’s a sign that the underband is too big.

2. The measurement across the bust and the difference between that and the underband measurement, in a formula, determines the cup size, i.e. A,B,C,D,E, etc.

Women often think that being a B cup is the ideal cup size as there is so much variety available in this size.

Fortunately, no matter what size bust you have, we do have the cup size available in many of our collections, like Simone Perele from Paris for a feminine classic sophisticated look or Affinitas from Los Angeles for a fresh colourful look for the younger spirited women particularly those who have small backs and large busts and Aubade from Paris for that sensual exotic trend setting woman who confidently shows cleavage and skin no matter what cup size she is.

3. The underwire should clearly separate the breasts and sit flush with the breastbone and against the skin as the wires curve around the under bust towards the armpits.

It is very important that the wire is not sitting too high into the armpit and pinching or piercing the flesh at the side of the bust.

Any fleshy part of the bust should be held firmly in the cup from under the arm pit so as to achieve a streamlined silhouette while always retaining comfort.

4. The straps are there to hold the bra up, but they are best to add stability. If your bra straps are digging into your shoulders, it’s a sign that the under band is too big therefore making the straps the main support to holding the bust up.

This will cause discomfort on the shoulders and is a reason why so many women eventually complain of a sore neck, shoulders and back.

So how exactly do you know if you are wearing the incorrect bra size?

Well, if you answer “yes” to any of the following questions, then it’s time to ditch your old bras and take Dimitri’s advice on finding your perfect bra.


Take the test:
Are your bra straps causing red marks on your shoulders or are they constantly slipping of your shoulders?
Do your breasts bulge over the cup edge or under your arm?
Is your bra band riding up your back?
Does the centre of your bra fail to touch your breastbone?
Is your bra giving you good posture?

No woman should have to choose between boring comfortable bras or pretty bras sacrificing comfort – they can and should have the right to both!
SOURCE:WOMAN24

This Is Why Guys Should Stop Giving “I F**ked Up” Flowers

LADIES. If you’ve ever been in a relationship, then you must be familiar with “I fucked up” flowers, aka the flowers your man gives you when he’s fucked up.

The man, after said fuck-up, will usually come to his girlfriend’s/wife’s home within 24 hours holding a bouquet and hoping the gesture will get him off the hook.

Suddenly, you’re given all this responsibility you didn’t ask for, like, you know, taking care of LIVING THINGS.
SOURCE: BUZZFEED

5 Disturbing Sex Toys That Are Actually Terrifying

1. Mr. Jack Mouth with Mustache

This is the goddamn creepiest-looking mouth I have ever seen in my life. This is not what mouths look like. What are those THINGS in his throat?? Stop that. I’m pretty sure I once saw this in a horror movie because that is the only place where this disembodied monstrosity would be even remotely OK.

2. King Dong

“Super-sized novelty dildo measures 15 inches long and over 2 inches wide.” For, you know, all those times when your giant 14-inch dildo just isn’t cutting it.

3. Baby Jesus Butt Plug

This is just wrong on so many levels. Why does this exist. Just why. There is something incredibly unsettling about a sex toy with a smiling baby’s face on it, but you do you (literally). (Jackhammer Jesus gets an honorable mention!)

4. The Cannon

FOR WHEN EVEN KING DONG ISN’T ENOUGH FOR YOU.

5. Death By Orgasm 10 Speed Scorpion Bullet Vibrator

first off, “Death By Orgasm”?? Second, WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE A SCORPION. WHY. STOP THAT. THIS IS WHAT NIGHTMARES ARE MADE OF. It even comes in a coffin, for goodness’ sake.
SOURCE:BUZZFEED

Have sex on the first date, pay for dinner and call him: How ANY woman can bag the man of her dreams in just 60 days (claims author with new book out)

Blake Lavak, 53, has written Own That Guy In 60 Days
Says his advice will help any woman get the man of their dreams 
Based on principles he says worked for Wallis Simpson and Angelina Jolie
But he said you don't need movie star looks to succeed 

Says women need to be forthright and proactive
Need to chase a man and not play hard to get
An author has claimed he can help any woman land the man of her dreams in just 60 days thanks to his dating techniques.

Blake Lavak, 53, who grew up in Long Island, New York, and now lives in London, says his advice is based on methods that have been proven to work throughout history.

He says his book is based on the same principles that helped Wallis Simpson make King Edward VIII fall so in love with her he gave up the throne, and led Brad Pitt to become infatuated with Angelina Jolie while they were filming Mr and Mrs Smith.

Blake says: 'It is remarkable how easy it is to land a great guy just by using the right technique. And yet, so many otherwise capable women struggle in this department. So the question has to be asked, what are they doing wrong, and what should they be doing instead.'

He believes Angelina's stunning looks have got nothing to do with how she managed to bag Hollywood's hottest man - instead he says it's about 'standing out from the crowd' and 'taking control and keeping it.'

He writes: 'She doesn't have to have movie-star looks, or a flat stomach, whitened teeth or bee-stung lips. In fact, none of that matters at all, as long as a few simple guidelines are followed instead.
'Hard to believe? Of course it is... it is precisely because so few women really know how to land a big tuna that they end up with little sardines instead.'

Blake writes about his techniques in his book, Own that Guy in 60 Days: A Practical Guide to Love for the 21st Century Woman, published by Durham Press.

'The book is 'a result of seven years of research into the world of the single women, and it identifies what the successful women do right to ensure that they walk off down the aisle with a big tuna.'

Blake, who studied Psychology at The London School of Economics, found his formula for 'owning' a man after he found himself on the dating scene again following the end of his 15-year marriage.

His quest to find a soul mate led him to discover what he thinks women are doing wrong when it comes to finding Mr Right
SOURCE: DAILYMAIL

31 Times You Felt Like Grey's Anatomy Understood You Better Than Anyone

During our 10 years with the Grey's Anatomy gang, we've had so many ups and downs. We've suffered through all the heartbreaking finales; made our way through dozens of disasters, hookups, and deaths; and secretly decided which Grey's Anatomy doctor we are. To commemorate just how far we've come, we're going back through all the moments we felt like we had a permanent understanding with Grey's. Keep scrolling, and let the nostalgia seep in.
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Confession – How A Married Man I Met On BBM Almost Killed Me With S*X And Drugs

I am a graduate and currently serving in Kaduna. I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter.

Here is my story. I happened to have a married man as a contact on my bbm. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing with him when his wife was outside the country, and I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at Swe bar, Lagos.

I also met his clique of friends, married as well with their various mistresses. We had ‘mad’ fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a HOTEL somewhere in Obalende. I felt sort of safe with him. We did not have se’x, but he made sweet love to me and touched me in places I had never ever imagined. He kissed me passionately but guess what? He did not have se’x with me. We did all sorts but there was no penetration. So, to an extent, I trusted he was a good person to be around with. I did not know that it was all part of the plan. He gave me N10,000 and put me in a cab to go home the next morning.

We kept talking and CHATTING and sending nak’ed pictures to each other and he told me naughty things of how he wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn’t see for two weeks and that was because his wife just came back from Turkey.

One faithful evening, he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and that he would love for me to be his date and that he wanted to open a bbm chat, as a medium for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited about it, I just wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends. The BBM group opened and we got chatting. I also realise that majority of them were married and working in reputable firms. It was fun and we didn’t mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls APART from my friends in the group.

We CHATTED exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had opened group conversations pending the beach party. And as excited as we were, we went shopping for nice se’xy beach wears. The D-day finally came, we all assembled at the Lagos Island Boat Club. I was wowed because it was a high class party.

We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies drinks and hot babes, and as well ‘MARRIED MEN’. I did not care, I just said in my mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this, that for now, all I wanted to do was to catch some fun. After all, I wasn’t paying bills. We got there, it was a private beach RESORT. Most of the beach facilities I got to see there were owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we were partying. It was a duplex made with wood.

It was a very nice setting. I felt comfortable because it even had a fence around it separating it from other beach houses around. So, there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys) guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven, I must be dreaming. Anyways, we felt free with each other because we had been chatting.

It was 5:30pm and the party just started. We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be owned by one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised that I was feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed. Not only me, but other girls around me too noticed there was something strange about it. I was also feeling Hot as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the drug had really gone deep into our system, they moved us up into the main beach house.

Whoa! Kim Kardashian’s S*x Tape With Ray J Breaks The Internet With 93 Million Views (DETAILS)

The internet has almost exploded after Kim Kardashian revealed all in Paper Magazine earlier this month.As the reality superstar unveiled her oiled body to the world, millions of people hit the web looking for the infamous s*x vid.

And adult website, Pornhub, have just released figures (see them here via Gizmodo) showing a 629 per cent surge in traffic to Kim Kardashian’s s*x tape.

The video has now been viewed over 93million times making it one of the most watched EVER.

Previous spikes in traffic came as Kim married and divorced American professional basketball player, Kris Humphries.

The Daily Star Online recently revealed how Kim’s birthday suit snaps reignited a flurry of purchases of her s*x video.

Sources at adult company Vivid said that sales of the X-rated footage rose significantly.And it’s believed that Ray J, who also stars in the video, has consequently pocketed around $50,000 (£32K) a week.

President Steve Hirsch revealed that Kim’s movie now makes her the biggest selling celeb s*x tape of all time.

By Daily Star

Ladies Only: How to Make Your Bútt Look Fuller

A smaller waist can also make your bútt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you LOSE WEIGHT around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist.

While some women are naturally blessed with big bútts, some have to strive a little harder to get curvy glutes. Nevertheless, it is not an impossible feat. Here are some easy tips and tricks to make your bútt look fuller.

The right posture When you adopt the right posture especially while standing it flatters your body, thereby highlighting your curves. This will not only make your bútt look bigger but it will also make you look taller and lean.

The runway walk

The right walk can also highlight your curves. Try to mimic a runway model’s walk by throwing your shoulders back and arching your lower back. Doing so will make your bútt appear protruding, thereby creating a fuller image. This will not only help your bútt but will also slim down your torso, making your chest appear fuller.

Bútt exercises

But APART from all the other tricks that make your bútt appear fuller, exercise is the only natural way to actually make your bútt bigger and curvier. Several exercises like squats, bútt bridges, stiff-leg deadlifts, lunges etc. can strengthen your bútt muscles and make them larger.

Exercise for a smaller waist

A smaller waist can also make your bútt appear bigger. Try exercises that will help you LOSE WEIGHT around your midsection. Exercises like leg lifts, planks, crunches etc. will help slim down your waist.

Wear a girdle or shapewear

Wearing a girdle or shapewear as this will help push the excess from your TUMMYdown to the bútt and hips. Apart from that it will also make your waist look slimmer, further making your bútt look a little more prominent.